Going through a breakup can be hard no matter what day it is. But breaking up on or around Valentine's Day can make the emotional pain even more intense. You're constantly reminded of the relationship that meant a lot to you, and it can be hard to process the loss.
It can make you feel down and depressed, and it can be hard to move forward. It doesn't help that everywhere you go you're surrounded by love and happiness or at least heart-shaped objects and reminders of a love that was. In this blog, we will be discussing some tips that a Brentwood therapist would recommend to help you handle the grief and depression of a break-up on Valentine's Day.
Lean on People that Get It and Validate and Support You
Not everyone is going to understand what you're going through; either they have not lost a relationship so close to this romanticized holiday or they don't understand how it's affecting you. Surround yourself with people who will listen and validate your feelings, even if they can't relate to them. This could include friends, family members, or even your spiritual group such as your Bible study group.
These people will be able to provide you with support emotionally and even spiritually. Having others to talk to about your feelings will help you to process them and not internalize them too much. Plus, it will help to keep you from isolating yourself for too long.
Take Time to Grieve but Don’t Isolate
If your relationship has just ended in February, it's still dark and cold, which makes it easier to isolate yourself. It's okay if you need a day or two to be by yourself to watch Netflix and binge your favorite shows. However, don't end up doing that for more than a few days, because then the snowball effect can kick in where not only will the days add up but so will the negative feelings.
For example, it's normal to take time for yourself to grieve the relationship you had and the person you were with. However, if you stay in bed for weeks, it's going to do more harm than good. Getting out with friends, even if you don't feel like it, can help distract from the pain and keep you from feeling overwhelmed. It can also help show your heart and mind that you can indeed move forward.
You Are Not Your Pain
It can be hard to step back and gain perspective when you are in the midst of pain, especially when your pain can be overwhelming and everything you do or see reminds you of your ex. You turn on the tv and because it's Valentine's Day coming up, you see couples walking hand in hand, and it triggers the pain. It may feel like you cannot escape it.
However, there is a way to step back and notice your pain mindfully without fusing with it. That's what Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) teaches people. It teaches them to be aware of their pain but not make it their whole being. ACT allows people to acknowledge their pain and what's going on but without allowing it to define them. It allows you to soothe the pain when it arises and move forward despite it. ACT empowers you to act on what's most important to you whether that's your mental health during this difficult time or something else.
If You're Feeling Overwhelmed, Talk to a Therapist
Going through a breakup right around the time when everyone you know is celebrating their relationships can be extra difficult. If you're feeling overwhelmed by the pain, don't hesitate to reach out for help. A therapist will be able to support you through your pain and allow you to talk about your feelings. They will help you find coping mechanisms that work best for you.
For instance, perhaps you are trying to watch movies that remind you of the good times, but it's just too hard. Your therapist could help you find a way to cope by talking about it or helping you to consider other hobbies that can help distract you from the pain. They will be there to support you every step of the way.
Going through a breakup can be difficult any time of the year but around Valentine's Day when there are hearts everywhere and everyone is celebrating their love, it can be even harder. However, it's important to remember that you are not your pain. You can get through this by taking the time to grieve, reaching out for help, and surrounding yourself with people who can support you. You don't have to suffer alone.
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Breakups are hard and can cause a lot of pain; they can even cause feelings of depression. However, you don't have to suffer forever due to a breakup. Working with a depression therapist in Brentwood, TN is an opportunity to find support and relief from your pain. If you are ready to start your therapy journey, you can follow these simple steps:
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At Vitus Counseling, I offer a range of services to support you through any challenge you may be facing. I specialize in therapy for trauma or PTSD as well as for anxiety and depression. Additionally, I provide addiction treatment for those seeking support for substance abuse. Vitus Counseling is located in Brentwood, TN outside of Nashville. However, I also offer online counseling to anyone living within the state of Tennessee, so I can offer you support even if you cannot make it to my clinic. If you’re considering counseling, please reach out. I will support you every step of the way.
