You have a loved one with an addiction, and it can be difficult to know how best to support them. You're having trouble expressing that you know they are struggling and that you care about their well-being. Navigating addiction can be tough, but there are ways to help your loved one. In this blog, Stu Cook, an addiction therapist in Brentwood, TN, will cover key tips for how to support a loved one with an addiction.
Show Compassion and Let Them Know You Care
First and foremost, one of the most important things you can do for your loved one is show them that you care and that you are here for them, no matter what. Your loved one may feel as if they are too much of a burden to you, so it will help if you can express compassion and understanding when they make mistakes or slip up.
However, this doesn't mean you cannot have boundaries. It's important to be clear with your loved one about what you are and aren't willing to accept. For example, if they reach for a third alcoholic drink, you can say something like "I love you, and I'm here for you, but that's your third drink. I'm leaving now, and I'm not going to talk to you while you're getting intoxicated.” Having boundaries with your loved one can show them that you care but also that you won't put up with certain behaviors.
Make Suggestions and Offer Resources
Watching your loved one struggle with addiction can be hard. You may feel compelled to fix their problems. But it's important to remember that your loved one needs to take the steps themselves. Instead of trying to control or fix them, offer loving suggestions or resources.
For example, if your loved one shows an interest in getting help, you can encourage them to find an addiction therapist or a support group. These loving suggestions and resources can help your loved one take steps towards sobriety but in a way that is supportive and validating rather than authoritative or controlling. It will also help them feel seen and heard.
Be Supportive of Their Sobriety
When or if your loved one decides to seek sobriety or help, it's important to be supportive. By making it clear how proud you are of them and how excited you are for them, you are setting the tone for their recovery process. Let your loved one know that you believe in them and will be there praying for them, no matter what.
It's also important to remember that addiction is a thinking disease, and it can often be caused by underlying issues or trauma. It shapes how your loved one thinks about themselves, others, and the world. It's essential to be understanding and patient with them in their recovery journey, even when it gets tough.
Addiction can start out as a coping mechanism for someone to cope with trauma or other mental health issues. Let your loved one know that you understand and are here to provide love and support. It can also be helpful to to be aware of your loved one's mental health and potential other issues that could have caused their addiction.
It's also important to remember that recovery can be a long and difficult process, so be prepared for any setbacks. Mistakes or relapses may happen, but it's important to be understanding and supportive. It might take time for your loved one to find the right treatment plan or support group, so going back to showing them compassion and understanding will go a long way in their journey.
Let Them Know You Forgive Them Too
Finally, it's important to remember that addiction is a difficult journey and mistakes will be made. As mentioned before, it's okay to set boundaries but also be prepared to forgive. Addiction is a disease, and it does not define someone as a person. Letting your loved one know that you forgive them and that you will support them no matter what can go a long way in their recovery process.
It's difficult, but it is possible to show unconditional love and support in the face of addiction. By setting boundaries, offering resources, being supportive, and forgiving mistakes, you can show your loved one that they are not alone in this journey and that you will be there with them every step of the way.
INTERESTED IN ADDICTION THERAPY IN BRENTWOOD, TN?
Your loved one deserves to get the help they need. Addiction therapy can help them better understand the root of their addiction, heal from any underlying issues, and find the tools they need to stay sober. At Vitus Counseling, I will help your loved one take steps to live a healthy, sober life. If you are interested in addiction therapy in Brentwood, TN:
Contact me at stucook@vituscounseling.com or (615)-709-5779.
Set up a free consultation call and learn more about my approach to counseling.
Begin your loved one's recovery journey today!
ADDITIONAL COUNSELING SERVICES OFFERED AT VITUS COUNSELING
At Vitus Counseling, I offer a variety of services to support any aspect of your growth and healing journey. I specialize in therapy for trauma or PTSD, as well as for anxiety and depression. Additionally, I provide addiction treatment for those seeking support for substance abuse. Vitus Counseling is located in Brentwood, TN outside of Nashville. However, I also offer online counseling to anyone living within the state of Tennessee, so I can offer you support even if you cannot make it to my clinic. If you’re considering counseling, please reach out. I will support you wherever you are on your journey.
